Valentines Day

I don't believe in most of the cheesy love cliches. I don't particularly like romance books or movies. I've never been in love. But I love Valentines Day. So many people don't seem to like Valentines Day and I just don't understand why. Valentines day is a day to celebrate love!! Birthdays are so everyone can celebrate your life. Anniversaries celebrate the joining of two people in a relationship. These are both days that we look forward to and appreciate getting gifts on, but for some reason some people get upset when someone showers them with presents on Valentines Day. They ask, "Why is there a day for someone to tell me they love me?’ and I say why the hell not!! Valentines Day is a celebration of love. It is the day we sit aside to bring special attention to that love. Some people have a hard time saying I love you, and on this day take special care to make sure their other knows it. They might say I love you by cooking dinner when you have to work late, or starting your car in the morning for you when it’s 15 degrees out, or just by letting you yell or cry about something. So why not on every February 14 let the person you love buy you chocolate and flowers, give you a sappy card, take you out to a restaurant they can’t really afford, and maybe a candle lit bubble bath with rose petals? Why is that so terrible?! They only guy who will tell me he loves me and give me chocolate this Valentines is my Daddy, but I’m ok with that because he doesn’t have to give me anything to remind me he loves me but he does it because he does. So next time you complain about Valentines Day remember they didn’t have to love, but they do and if they want to give you things you don’t need just shut up and take them and kiss them when they say I LOVE YOU!

Love

I believe that there is just one person in the world for everyone some may never find that person and others may just screw it up, but I believe there is only one person meant just for you. I don't believe in happily ever after or love at first sight. I don't believe someone will come and sweep me off my feet or be so overwhelmed that my heart skips a beat every time I think of him. I don't much enjoy romance books or movies, and I believe Disney romances can set young girls up for disappointment. Americana's put more emphasis on love than any other culture we drink it up like water and throw it away as if it were trash. We spend millions of dollars on Valentine's Day and billions of dollars on jewelry. Yet so many of use struggle with love more than any aspect in our lives. I believe that love can be the greatest thing that could ever happen to you and it can also be the worst.

Existing

One of my favorite Christmas movies is It's A Wonderful Life that tells the age old tell about how your life means more to others than you think it does. And some days I do feel like my life is important and that it means something in the grand scheme of things. Almost as if I were destined to change the world in some way whether it be small or unrecognized while I'm alive it will happen all the same. But on most days I feel as if I am just existing and am uncomfortably aware that I am only 1 in 6.2 billion people on this Earth. That isn't even including all the people who came before us or will come after us or that may or may not exist beyond our world. Andy Warhol once said, "It’s not who you are, but who you think you are," and if I am who I think I am then on these days am I not any more than the person chosen to fill this particular time slot; like your typical 9 to 5iver am I not simply punching the clock in and out of this world with birth and death? Some days pass when I feel nothing at all. I simply am. Those days come and go with no particular effort or meaning. Then there are those days. It's not really the entire day, but merely a brief subtle moment in which times seems to stop and I feel like I'm floating alone in the void of space and all the people around me are merely figments of my imagination. It's like a slow motion scene in an action movie as if I were just prolonging the inevitable; as if I were watching from the outside. I always go back to normal as if it had never happened, but do you know what it's like to feel trapped inside your own mind with thoughts so complex you can't seem to form the proper words to describe them almost as if you were grasping for bubbles: cohesive, stable, and tangible yet translucent and fragile. But even on these days when the world seems to stop, even if only for a millisecond, for me and sometimes even more so I feel as if I were simply existing with no real purpose. Days and weeks blur together with no foreseeable end forming my life. I sometimes wish that I really could stop time or perhaps relive the same day over and over for awhile just to remind myself that this is real. This is really my only chance. Maybe I set my self up for too grand an adventure in my early childhood causing discontentment in the begings of my adult life. They scarist part of that thought is that I've always been a pessimist form the moment I formed my first free thoughts, and even in my childhood fantasies I never imagined a happliey ever after for myself. So if my young life is already falling short of my expectations for happieness based on my presumptions from a time in my life when I believed true love was nothing but pure fantasy what does that say about my distant future? And as the clock ticks away into another day I have to wonder how do I know there will even be a tomorow.

I'm not mean I just say the things most people keep in their heads.

People say that honesty is always the best policy, but what they really mean is that when you get caught doing something you shouldn't you should be honest not that they really want your honest opinion on everything. I run into this all the time and I've come to find 9/10 that when someone asks for your opinion on something what they really want is for you to tell them what they want to hear. I never do. Lets says for instance that your best friend/girlfriend/wife asks you does a particular outfit make her look fat. The socially acceptable answer is, "No sweetie you look gorgeous!." I can grantee you those words will never come out of my mouth if I think you look like an old hippo. My problem isn't the fact that I'm honest it's they way I do it. Where any normal person might say, "Well it's not all that flattering." It's much more likely that if you're a size 9 or up and trying to squeeze into anything leather or spandex there is a good chance that you won't even have to ask how you look because something along the lines of, "Dear God you're not really planning to be seen in that!" will come flying out of my mouth. I'm neither tactful nor subtle and people tend to be more than just a little taken aback the first time they hear me say something. The moments though that I see the most jaws drop and hear the loudest gasps are when people older than I ask my opinion on pretty much anything from religion to fashion. I guess they're expecting me to shuffle my feet and wring my hands and mumble about how I don't really know enough about whatever it is they are talking about. Instead of me looking them in the eyes and serving them escargot when they were expecting chicken. (My attempt at a food metaphor.) I don't really know how to curb my need to be overly honest, but some times I think some people don't ever hear the truth and somebody has to tell them sometime.

Setup

I have a lot of thoughts at odd hours of the day. In fact I have delievered intire speeches to an audince of me, myself, and I. From now on I will try and make sure they get here instead of being lost in the tangled realm of my mind.